Parents’ Role on the Sidelines
Soccer provides a fun, athletic activity that teaches teamwork, character and leadership skills. As parents, our support on sidelines can help achieve these if directed in a positive manner.
Kids participate in Sports for the Following Reasons:
Competence (learning / improving)
Affiliation (Being part of a team/ club)
Fitness (agility, balance, coordination, and physical health)
Fun (Primary reason children play sports)
Notice that “winning” is not one of the reasons.
Why do kids stop? Primary reasons are “ADULT CONTROLLED” behaviors.
Lack of Playing Opportunity
Overemphasis on Winning
Lack of Fun/ Learning Environment
Overwhelming Pressure from Parents
We all want the best for our children; most parents are positive on the sidelines. However, sometimes forget the games are for the children; not the adults. Games themselves are the best teachers; not shouting from the sidelines.
How do you support your child from the sidelines?
Celebrate small victories achieved on the field.
Focus on: accurate passing; defensive effort; ball control; first touches.
Encouraging Statements: “great effort; well done; keep working…”
Don’t focus on just goals and biggest kicks.
DO NOT COACH! “Shoot it! Kick it!” May contradict coach’s instructions. Confuses Kids
Focus on whether or not they learned anything/ had fun.
Ask your player what they thought of the game.
The player needs a parent much more than another coach.
Remember Winning isn’t the Primary reason they play!
If they complain, remember they just want to vent…lend a listening ear!
Next time you are on the sidelines supporting your player remember:
Game is for the kids to play and for us to enjoy watching.
Game itself is the best teacher.
Sideline coaching confuses kids, sometimes contradicts coach’s instructions.
Let the kids play!